 Lots play time and cuddles are essential to develop a bond. In fact, it forms the basis for a healthy father-child relationship.
Learn how dads and new-borns can build a closer attachment in those precious first few weeks. If you’re a new dad and you're not sure how to start bonding with your new baby, you’re not alone. Many parents begin bonding with their babies straight away. But it’s also common for some parents (both mum and dad) to feel anxious in those early days. Bonding is really important. Strong, healthy relationships will improve your baby’s development. It will give them a sense of security and self-esteem. You can begin the moment your baby is born. It's something you’ll be able to do during the course of your daily routine. Here’s how: 1. Hold your baby Your baby will love being in your arms. New dads can carry their new-born’s, cradle them and keep them close to their skin. Your baby will soon recognise your familiar smell and will be comforted by your presence. Be sure to start those cuddles as early as you can. 2. Talk or sing to your baby Your baby might not know what you’re saying, but your familiar voice will soothe them. You can choose to talk, read or sing to your baby. You can even copy their cute noises. In doing so, you’ll stimulate their senses and create a stronger bond with one another. (If you’re reading this while your partner is still pregnant, remember that a baby hears sounds while in the womb. Why not start chatting to your baby now?) 3. Massage your baby Massage can calm your baby and help them to sleep. Massage has many advantages for your baby. It can help them gain weight, aid digestion and improving circulation. You may find it therapeutic too. The key is to massage very gently. You might like to go to attend a baby massage class in your local area. 4. Give them a bath It is recommend to not bath baby until after they are a few days old. Thereafter, giving your baby a bath will not only be fun, but it can help both of you relax. When done in the evening, it can get your baby ready for a good night’s sleep. You can also use this time to give mum a chance to recharge her batteries for a short while. 5. Swing with a sling There will be times when your baby will want to be held, when you are trying to do things. Putting them in a sling is a fabulous option to please both of you. In a front carrier it will help them feel comforted against your chest. Ensure the carrier offers good head and neck support, and that your baby can breathe without obstruction. All of these are easy to implement into your routine. Not only will it provide you and your baby quality time together, it will allow mum some precious moments to herself. Follow Magical Baby Moments on its social channels: Facebook | Instagram | Twitter
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 Birth is a woman’s right and how she chooses to go through her pregnancy and how to give birth should always be in her control. If you're on your first pregnancy, no doubt you have been reading countless books, been getting advice from medical professionals and recommended by family and friends what you should do.
During pregnancy, there are tests and scans that are usually carried out. Having them is not obligatory. You can say ‘no’; tough many don’t realise that there is a choice. Rarely are parents told of the risks and benefits of each test before having them carried out. The medical professional is there to advise and inform you of your choices; however the ultimate decision should always lie with you. Here are some considerations that you might want to think about: DURING PREGNANCY Where to have your antenatal check-ups Your antenatal care can be provided in a number of ways. You could book your appointments at the local Children’s Clinic, you could be assigned a visiting community midwife at your local doctor’s surgery, or you may have your antenatal care directly with the hospital at which you will give birth. Ask about each option to find out which option would best suit you. Dating Scan – the rigidity of it Often women will calculate their due date based on their last menstrual cycle. Then at the first scan, which is around 12 weeks into her pregnancy this date is likely to alter. Note that scans aren’t always accurate and the due date can often out between 3-5 days. If they measure the baby bigger, then this would give a mum an earlier expected date, which at the end of pregnancy means an earlier date for potential pressure for an intervention/induced birth. It’s worth noting here that the World Health Organisation states that a baby is at full term from 37 weeks and if born at this point usually doesn’t need medical assistance. Yet it is also perfectly normal for a woman to give birth around the 42 week mark. So the rigidity of a single day is nonsense when you think about it. Only 4 per cent of babies are born on their due date, and the majority of babies are born after their due date. Also be aware that having scans is not compulsory, in fact some might argue that as they don’t alter the course of pregnancy, is there really a need for them at all? For many women, they provide reassurance that the pregnancy is progressing well, however for others, the results of a scan can bring unexpected news. How does this alter how the woman feels in pregnancy? If you would like to read more about Ultrasounds, I recommend the book written by the Association for Improved Maternity Services (AIMS) called Ultrasound? Unsound Gestational Diabetes test Gestational Diabetes is a high blood sugar condition that women can get during pregnancy. Between 2 and 5 per cent of pregnant mothers develop this condition. Only about 30 per cent of women who test positive on the glucose screen really have the condition. If you test positive on the screening, you'll need to take the glucose tolerance test (GTT) – a longer, more definitive test that confirms whether you have gestational diabetes, or not. How will I know if I might have gestational diabetes? A routine urine test will show a lot of sugar in your urine. If midwife notices this, she may want you to be tested for this. Even if the results are normal, you may be screened again at 24 to 28 weeks, just to be sure. If you are diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes, your pregnancy will move into the ‘high risk’ category, which in turn could mean birth choices being taken away from you; such as no longer being able to give birth in a birth centre or midwife-led unit. The reason for this is that with gestational diabetes babies can grow bigger than the expected range for birth and the health system would prefer to monitor you in the labour ward, where facilities are on hand should they be required. This is why it is important to maintain a healthy diet throughout pregnancy, so that your blood sugars remain in the normal range. Avoid sugary foods and drinks before midwife appointments to avoid unusual readings that could lead you along this path. Where to have your baby - hospital, midwife-led unit or home birth? In the UK, the NHS, in fairness, is trying hard to normalise birth (read about the Better Births Initiative). While many births still take place at hospital, the NHS is working towards making it less of a medical procedure and more of the wonderful experience that it should be treated as. The NHS is investing in more birthing centres, many of which are within a hospital setting. The centre usually has a more hotel-like feel rather than the medicalised setting that a labour suite tends to have. The centres are managed only by midwives, which is why they only accept women with low-risk pregnancies. Women who are considered high-risk would be in a labour ward, where obstetricians are available to help, should any emergencies arise. In recent years there has been a push for home-births. In the Better Births Initiative link (above) it states: ‘Birthplace research shows that healthy women with planned births in midwife-led units and at home were more likely to have a normal birth as compared with obstetric units.’ Home Births are intended for women who have had low risk pregnancies and where midwifery care comes to your home to help you in give birth to your baby. So is where you birth really a choice? What if you did have factors that put you in the high-risk bracket…are some of those choices no longer available to you? Each woman’s circumstance is different, so speak to your midwife about your plans for birth to see how they can accommodate your preferences. Should I take their advice for an induced labour or can I wait for labour to start spontaneously? As your due date approaches, your midwife is likely to say to you something along these lines. ‘If baby hasn’t arrived before so-and-so date then we will book you for an induction’. Please stop her right there and simply ask the question, ‘Why? What medical concerns do you have for me or my baby?’ According to the National Institute of Clinical Negligence (NICE), an induction should only be suggested to mothers when there is a clinical justification – read the NICE guidelines. If all is well and your baby is happy where they are and you both just happen to be past the due date, this is NOT a reason for induction. However, many women just aren’t aware of this. Because it has become so routine in our modern society, women seem to accept this as the way it has to be, without questioning why. For those who haven’t read up on their choices, they may easily accept this information and just say to friends and family. ‘I’m going to be induced on so-and-so date.’ But what they are not told is what the medical reason is for this. The late arrival of a healthy baby, with a mother who is not presenting any medical concerns, is not a clinical justification. Quite often women aren’t talked through what an induction really means, how this type of labour feels, compared to a spontaneous labour, and what risks are involved during an induced labour. In many cases an induction leads to a C-section. I often wonder if these outcomes could have been avoided, if they had been given more time for a natural labour to start. Just think back to when you first fell pregnant? Did you calculate your own ‘due date’? Perhaps this date was a day, or more, later than your hospital due date… are they therefore rushing you to have your baby unnecessarily early? You, your body and your baby have done just fine for 39+weeks so why do they think that your body wouldn’t know how to go into spontaneous labour when it is ripe and ready? So what can you do? You are fully within your rights (because how you birth is YOUR choice) to decline induction and be asked to be monitored more closely in the days after 40 weeks has passed, to ensure that both you and baby continue to be well. For extra reading, look at the AIMS booklet on Inducing Labour: Making Informed Decisions DURING LABOUR The choice of how your labour plays out is in your hands - it doesn't need to be totally managed by the midwife, neither do you need to be left totally alone. It can be a blend of many things. Here are some things to consider: Consent Forms In the hospital you may be asked to sign consent forms when you are in established labour, say for example agreeing to an epidural. It may be worth discussing these options with your midwife in early labour and tell her what you are open to or not. Get those consent forms signed before you enter the bubble of established labour, when the last thing you are going to care about is admin! You will have a bigger job at hand. Vaginal examinations A vaginal examination helps the midwife establish how far your cervix has dilated. Other than that, it serves no purpose. It is possible for the cervix to constrict in labour if a woman is feeling tense or vulnerable. So if you are not comfortable with having an examination, the cervix may react and present tighter than when you relax your body; therefore giving a misleading dilation stretch. Though not very likely, there is a slim chance that by having a vaginal examination infection and bacteria is introduced into the vagina. An expectant mother is well within her right to decline all vaginal examinations, if that is her preference. Breaking your waters vs spontaneous rupture of the amniotic sac In an induced labour, after the pessary has taken effect, if labour isn’t progressing as they would like, the next step would be perform an Artificial Rupture of the Membranes (ARM), also known as an amniotomy. This is usually carried out by your midwife. The membranes will be ruptured using a tool, such as an amnihook or amnicot. This is carried out in the belief that it will speed up and strengthen contractions. In a spontaneous labour the membranes can rupture at any point in labour. In rare cases a baby is born with amniotic sac still intact, this is called ‘en caul’. While the risks are very low, there are risks associated with ARMs. It is a blind procedure, therefore, there can be no certainty that the midwife won’t end up rupturing vessels that are part of the overall blood supply to the baby. An already compromised baby may be put at further risk by an amniotomy; as the uterus could become hyper-stimulated. In addition to this, if when the waters break the baby doesn’t align correctly within the pelvic inlet, they maybe might find it hard to get into position. When this happens, the cervix dilation can stall and labour doesn’t progress as it should do. Most hospital’s policies are that they would like babies to be born within 24 hours of the ARM. If a woman’s labour shows signs of stalling, other forms of induction and augmentation will be offered, before the 24 hour deadline approaches. Monitoring baby Your baby should be monitored at least every four hours in early labour and every 15 minutes in established labour. A midwife will listen in to the baby’s heart rate, either with a hand-held Doppler or with a continual fetal heart monitor and check that baby’s heart rate does not decelerate during contractions. When a baby’s heart rate dips during contractions, it is a sign that the baby is in distress. They will continue to monitor you and the baby very closely and advise if alternative action necessary. Confined to the bed vs being mobile When a woman spends most of her labour on a bed, her movements are restricted, her body could be in the exact same position for long periods of time. If this happens to be more lying down than sitting upright, she is not using gravity to her advantage and she could be slowing the labour process down without realising it. A woman, who wants to encourage a smoother labour, keeps mobile. Those movements encourage the baby to descend more rapidly and result in shorter labours, often without complications. Antenatal educators advise all mothers to be active and upright in labour and to only use the bed when it is absolutely necessary. Natural vs medicalised pain relief There are two types of pain relief; see the options below: Natural
Medicalised
Women are encouraged to go through as much of labour with natural pain relief, so as not to interrupt the natural process of birth. However, for some women, using medical pain relief is a necessity and we are lucky to have these options available to us, should they be needed. Some people consider hypnobirthing as a natural form of pain relief. Hypnobirthing itself doesn’t promise a pain free labour, but many women who have learned hypnobirthing, who have practiced the techniques and have worked on preparing for birth with a positive mindset go on to experience wonderful births. Giving birth; should I lie, sit or squat? Unlike the films and soap operas, giving birth on a bed with your legs astride is not the only position to give birth. The sitting position on a bed can inhibit your baby’s entrance into the world and it can be more challenging for the mother to give birth in this position. Lying down flat, means that you are not letting gravity help you and somehow your baby has to venture into your birth canal horizontally – this isn’t very efficient. Consider being more upright, think about adopting a squat-like pose, where you are able to bear down, allowing the birth of the baby to be smoother. This could be sitting on a birth ball with your hips higher than your knees (encouraging the upper part of your body to tip slightly forward). This position puts the baby’s weight on the frontal part of the pelvis; potentially allowing more space. This is because your ligaments are looser during late pregnancy and your pelvic capacity can widen. You could also think about being on your knees and leaning across the back part of the bed (moved into a vertical position - like the back of a chair). By leaning over the bed, you are allowing your bump to tip forward, whilst still having movement and flexibility in your hips. This position also works well if you are in the birthing pool. Coached birthing vs mother-led birthing You may have visions of the midwife encouraging you to ‘push’ your baby out when the time comes. Media will have you believe that labour is all about pushing, pain and panting – this is inaccurate. A mother doesn’t need to experience that to birth her baby; there are gentler ways to aid your baby into this world. Simply by listening to your body and responding accordingly; through gentle Down Breathing, as taught in KG Hypnobirthing, allows your baby to descend to the rhythm of your body. AFTER BIRTH Natural expulsion of the placenta or Synthetic Oxytocin injection It is entirely up to you whether you prefer the midwives to administer Synthetic Oxytocin into your system to help aid the detachment of the placenta from the uterus wall. If you have had an unmedicalised labour up until that point, you may well choose not to accept the injection to start with. It is extremely likely that your body will do this of its own accord. If you have had an augmented labour, then your body may then need a little help in expulsing the placenta, with the help of this hormone substitute. Ask your caregiver if they feel it is necessary when the time comes, or perhaps wait to see how your body reacts after birth to decide for sure. Cutting the cord / Optimal cord clamping In the UK today, optimal cord clamping is encouraged for all babies in all birth situations, whenever possible. Ask your midwife what the policy is in your Trust. My hope is that they will say ‘until the cord stops pulsating’. If they don’t say this, then maybe this is something that you need to have in your birth plan. Nature intends for the baby to have all the blood from the placenta after birth. When the blood has drained, the umbilical cord starts recoiling and the placenta begins to detach from the uterus wall. At most this takes a few minutes. During this time the baby is enriched with all the stem cells and blood that belongs to him/her, that they would otherwise be deprived of, if the cord were to be cut sooner. Did you know that a baby can weigh 200g more if the blood is passed from the placenta, than if the cord were to be cut immediately? This blood belongs to your baby, so ask your caregivers to ‘wait for white’ (the colour the umbilical cord will be when the blood has passed through). Find out more: Wait For White Skin to Skin It is encouraged that the baby goes directly to the mother straight after birth. Decide if you prefer to have the baby wiped down first or whether you are happy for baby to come directly to you. This is known as Skin to Skin. This period is extremely important for many reasons: After being nine months in a warm, dark pool of water, where the sounds are all muffled. It is quite a stark contrast to come into this world. Where people are excitedly talking about the new arrival, where the lights are bright and this beautiful wet baby is starting to feel cool air on its skin. The best way to soothe the baby is to place it directly to the mother’s chest, where her body heat can warm the baby, where the sound of her heartbeat and other bodily noises can be heard again; offering comfort and where a significant part of the microbiome process can be introduced (this is one of the early milestones in which you can colonise the gut with important bacteria from the mum and helps to build the baby’s immune system). If for whatever reason mum is unable to do this, then the Birth Partner could do this. Isn’t it much nicer than having the baby in a cot nearby, or being held by strangers, when there is no need? Breastfeeding Breastfeeding is a personal decision, and from experience I know that it isn’t as easy as it seems. What your plans may have been before you baby was born, can be very different from what you actually experience. However, breastfeeding is considered beneficial for the following reasons:
Partners being able to stay This varies from hospital to hospital. It seems crazy that when a woman who is in a vulnerable situation and needs support, is not allowed to have her partner stay with her. There must also be an emotional impact for the partners to be sent away, when it comes to bonding with their baby. Discuss this with your midwife, as to what the guidelines are for your hospital. Sometimes you can pay for a private room; this option may be attractive to you. These are just some considerations to decide upon, that can help you create the right birth plan that is for you. If you have any questions, feel free to email: Magical Baby Moments at classes@magicalbabymoments.com Magical Baby Moments offers group hypnobirthing courses in Romford and Upminster, and private courses across Essex and London. Check to find out upcoming dates.  Maybe this is your first pregnancy and you're scared because you've never been through it. How do you even begin to imagine what it is going to be like? Do you wonder if you'll know what to expect and how you're going to feel during this experience?
Have you been through labour before? Was it not what you expected. Did it not turn our how thought or wanted? Are you looking for a better experience this time? Here are 5 simple ways to look forward to your birth: 1. Be informed It is vital to know what your options are for pregnancy, during labour and straight after birth. Understanding these choices you can influence your baby’s birth path. It will allow you to confidently make the right decisions for you and your baby. Magical Baby Moments can talk you through the risks and benefits of each situation. 2. Think through your birth preferences Many people will tell you that 'no one read my birth plan' or 'my birth plan went out of the window’. Labour and birth are unpredictable; no two births are quite the same. This is why is is better to think about multiple scenarios and deciding on 'birth preferences'. Knowing what you would like and wouldn't like is a starting point to achieving a positive birth experience. Take control! Magical Baby Moments will talk through all the common scenarios and options. You can then choose with confidence with your choices and preferences. 3. Understand the journey that you baby is about to undertake Many women are told that giving birth is 'painful'. This is not always the case. Giving birth is not some rite of passage. It is a journey, where your body instinctively knows how to get your baby out safely and gently. The ‘pain’ many women feel is FEAR and reluctance to trust in their body. If you let go of the fear and allow your body to give birth when it is ready, you will feel empowered. It may at times be intense, but it doesn't need to be painful. Magical Baby Moments will teach you what your body goes through during birth. We will teach you techniques to remain calm and relaxed. Through breathing and visualisations you can achieve a pain-free birth. 4. Be mindful Use pregnancy as a time to reflect. Think about this baby you are carrying. How would you like them to enter the world? Do you have everything in your grasp to be able to achieve that? Do you need external help? Use this time to turn labour and birth into something to look forward to. Imagine how you want your birth to be. Remember the mind has the power over the body, so you can influence what happens on the day. Magical Baby Moments will give you lots of tools and tips to feel positive about birth. We will provide you with many affirmations that you can read over and over during your pregnancy. 5. Don’t do it alone Giving birth is a magical experience that you should never have to do alone. So whoever you choose as your birth partner, they should be included in the planning process. As the corny phrase goes…Fail to plan, plan to fail. Without telling your birth partner how you would like things to be, how are they going to help you achieve this? Magical Baby Moments will help you and your birth partner plan the birth that YOU want. We will show them how important it is for them to be by your side, every step of the way. We teach them how they can support you. Do you want to have the birth of your dreams? One that is calm, relaxed. Where you and your birth partner are confident from start to finish. Then join one of Magical Baby Moments classes. Find available dates for group hypnobirthing courses in Romford, Upminster and Thurrock. Follow Magical Baby Moments on its social channels: Facebook | Instagram | Twitter  It’s vital to have someone there who you are confident that they will support you. It's important that they know your hopes, feelings and preferences for the birth. They need to be confident about your preferences, so that they are able to speak up for you, if needed.
The baby's father will usually be the lucky one who gets to share this extraordinary moment. However, you may also opt for your mother or another member of the family or even your closest friend. The important thing is that you choose someone you completely trust and with whom you are at ease with. They must also be a rock for you, should the going get tough. Most hospitals in the UK allow two people with you. If you feel that this is right for you, explain to your partner the benefits of having someone to support them too. This can be especially helpful if the labour is long. The birthing partner's job is a very important one. He or she will have to offer you complete support and encouragement. They need to keep you as comfortable as possible during the labour and birth. You need someone who is prepared to respond to your every need. Someone who is happy to pace the room with you and try out all the different positions you have learned. Someone who won't be offended if you get irritable. They will remain strong during difficult moments and be your rock if you fall to pieces! Finally, it has to be someone who can be your voice. They need to be able to represent your thoughts and feelings. They must stand up for what you want if, during your labour, you are unable to do so yourself. Your birthing partner will experience the whole amazing process. They can be the first to see your baby's head emerging into the world, and get the chance to cut the umbilical cord (if that's what they want to do). It will also be their job to remain with your newborn if you need medical attention or feel groggy after the birth. Your birthing partner may have to endure quite a lot during the labour and birth. But one cuddle the beautiful newborn for the very first time and it will be forgotten. Useful things a birth partner may need to take to hospital:
A great way to ensure that your birth partner is confident in supporting you would be for them to attend antenatal classes with you. find out what you will get from a hypnobirthing course. Follow Magical Baby Moments on its social channels: Facebook | Instagram | Twitter |
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