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If you are expecting a baby in the next few months and you’re looking for a calm and positive birth experience, then book yourself on a Hypnobirthing Course.
If you’re located near Romford in Essex, come and join Magical Baby Moments for a weekend or evening hypnobirthing course.
The expectant mum and her birth partner will learn practical tips to stay relaxed, focused and positive in late pregnancy, labour and birth and they will come away completely informed about the possible scenarios that may arise during labour; so that they know how to make decisions wisely that are right for both mum and baby.
A hypnobirthing course is a fully rounded antenatal course, covering all the topics and more that you will learn on either an NCT or Parent Craft course.
If you want a course that gives you the facts about labour and birth, arms you with the information and questions to ask your caregivers, should things deviate from your plans and empowers you to take control of your birth, then look no further.
Magical Baby Moments teaches the KGHypnobirthing method. Take a look at the course modules and book your place today.
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Magical Baby Moments is a Romford-based company offering all expectant parents hypnobirthing classes in Romford and Upminster in Essex.
To help couples with different work patterns and external commitments, Magical Baby Moments offers hypnobirthing courses on weekends as well as week nights.
Weekend courses are a wonderful way to get all the information in one short burst. The weekend hypnobirthing course runs from 10am-4:30pm on Saturday and 10am-1:30pm on Sunday. Whether you are looking for a Romford Hypnobirthing Course or Hypnobirthing classes in Upminster, both settings are relaxed, friendly and welcoming. Groups are limited in size to enable as much interaction as possible; so that couples feel comfortable to ask questions.
Hypnobirthing courses are beneficial any time from 20 weeks onwards. Don't worry if you are further along, it's quick and easy to learn the techniques and information to enable you to have an empowered birth.
Whichever hypnobirthing course that you choose, it will include 10- 12 hours of teaching time. You will also receive:
1) The Katharine Graves Hypnobirthing Book
2) Colour & Calmness relaxation tracks
3) Handouts that support the lesson plans
4) Support by phone/email up until the birth of your baby.
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Read what couples who attended Magical Baby Moments Hypnobirthing course, thought of the course content and the hypnobirthing teacher.
What better way to get to know what people thought of the course than through their feedback: Go to our Testimonials and Birth Stories pages to read more, in the meantime, here are a few:
"We found the course to be easy to follow with great opportunities for discussion to develop our understanding to best prepare us for the birth of our first child. Feeling positive about the next steps..."
"The hypnobirthing experience has been very insightful and interesting. I no longer feel scared and anxious about birth and look forward to using the techniques I have learnt during labour. I would definitely recommend this course to expectant parents."
"This course has helped me change the perception around birth with the techniques learnt I hope as the partner I am able to assist in a much more relevant way."
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If you would like to find out more before committing to a course, then read this book The Power of Hypnobirthing: 10 reasons why it's for you , which explains what you will get from a hypnobirthing course.
Every woman is entitled to have the birth that is right for her. However, this often is NOT the case. After 8.5 months of caring and nurturing their baby on their own, suddenly the team of caregivers around her — usually midwives or obstetricians — is suggesting ‘plans of action’ should this baby not arrive ‘on time’. When really, in most cases, there is no medical reason or need to rush baby out. And there certainly isn’t any need for human meddling, which invariably leads to a medicated and uncomfortable birth.
The fallacy around the ‘due date’
There are many mums who will carry their baby past their ‘due date’. This is not a reason for concern. It is simply part of nature. If you and your baby are fine, you need to ask yourself why anyone should feel justified to interfere.
Many babies are born later than their estimated due date. This could simply be a matter of the due date being slightly out. Scans are not 100 per cent accurate. AND remember, there is no ‘due date’ as such. All women are different, all babies are different and all pregnancies are different. The World Health Organization states that a baby is usually born anytime between 37 and 42 weeks.
Did you know…
…that only 4% of babies are born on their ‘due date’?
… due dates even vary from country to country (40 weeks in the UK, 41 weeks in France for example)!
Conclusion? Due dates are estimates!!!
To accept an induction or not, that is the question
Currently in the UK, caregivers are booking in thousands of low-risk mothers for an induction before they have even reached the 42-week mark. Why have they not been given the chance to get to the 42-week mark first and then weigh up the options? Is an induction really the right type of labour for them?
If you are a healthy mum who has experienced a straightforward, uncomplicated pregnancy, then reaching the 42-week mark is totally fine.
When a woman is beyond 40 weeks gestation, couples should consider evidence-based research to get a clearer picture of what the risks are of going beyond 40 weeks and how likely something is to happen or not. If they have a condition that is a cause for concern, they need to choose the path that protects the well-being of both the mother and the baby.
Hypnobirthing supports all options for birth, so being induced, choosing intervention or opting for an elective Caesarean section are all possible options, even with hypnobirthing.
Demystifying the word ‘hypnobirthing’
Before we get into what hypnobirthing is about and what it involves, let’s demystify this word that often conjures up false images. In essence it simply tells it as it is: ‘hypno’ comes from the word ‘hypnosis’, so ‘hypnobirthing’ just means ‘hypnosis for birth’.
Forget the hypnotists and hypnosis shows you see on TV — these programmes are created and edited for entertainment. Hypnobirthing is equivalent to clinical hypnotherapy for other matters, where individuals are able to make life-enhancing changes, such as stopping smoking or overcoming a phobia.
Hypnobirthing is not done to you. Only you can put yourself into hypnosis, only you can decide whether to relax into a ‘hypnotic trance’ or not. So hypnobirthing, like meditation and mindfulness, is about learning to take control of your mind and your body; through breathing, visualisation and relaxation techniques, and being guided to think differently and to be open to change.
The mind is extremely powerful and it is divided into the conscious and the subconscious (or unconscious). Every single moment of the day, these two components are in constant dialogue, but the subconscious is the master of all that you think and do: it constitutes around 88 per cent of your mind. In hypnobirthing we use scripts that relax the conscious part and tap into your subconscious. When you go into your labour ‘bubble’, hypnobirthing helps you to remain calm, confident and focused throughout. It will enable you to trust your instincts and connect at a deeper level with what your body and baby are experiencing.
However, hypnobirthing is not just about the ‘hypno’ bit. It is also about having a deeper understanding of what your body is doing during labour, of the natural and physiological reactions and changes that occur. There are recommended techniques and positions that can help optimise your labour, to make it more comfortable and, in many cases, faster than labours that don’t use these simple and effective tools.
So if you’ve been put off by media, friends and family because they showed or told you that labour is some horrific, screaming, swearing, painful ritual that you have to pass through in order to hold your baby, know that it doesn’t have to be that way. Birthing has the potential to be a calm and positive experience… if you want it to be and if you learn how to make it so.
If you want to find out more about hypnobirthing and why you should do it, in the book The Power of Hypnobirthing you will discover 10 great reasons why hypnobirthing is a skillset for every expectant mum, for each and every pregnancy. It is also for their birth partner, because it will bring them front and centre to the whole pregnancy, labour and birth experience, enabling them to offer the mother essential support throughout.
Who is a hypnobirthing course for?
Despite there being a shift in perceptions, many people still think that hypnobirthing is only for a select group, such as hippy-types, yummy-mummies and lentil-lovers. Trust me when I say that every expectant mum can benefit from a hypnobirthing course, regardless of whether:
A hypnobirthing course is a full antenatal course, where all options and choices are explored.
Let’s pause for a second and consider the following. How are you expected to make choices if you don’t have a clear understanding of all the options available to you? How can you decide what’s right for you if you don’t know the pros and cons for each of those choices? Giving birth should be about informed decision. That means fully understanding your options and being told the full picture so that you can decide what feels right for you and your baby.
So a hypnobirthing course is not only about relaxation and breathing techniques, visualisations and positive birth affirmations; it is an all-round programme that teaches everything that an expectant mother and her birth partner need to know about late pregnancy, labour, birth and beyond. From the physical changes that occur in a mother’s body towards the end of pregnancy, as it prepares for labour, through to what a woman can expect to happen during labour and birth. Magical Baby Moments also has a section on how to care for a newborn, as I feel it is important to help new parents as much as possible beyond birth too.
Hypnobirthing courses are not just for people who expect labour to follow a certain path. No two births are the same and labour does not always follow the exact path that you would like it to take either. So you have to be open-minded and be ready to embrace the other scenarios, should they arise.
Hypnobirthing classes teach couples how to be fully informed of all the circumstances that can occur. These topics are discussed in detail so that the participants are confident with the terminology and all the benefits, risks and alternatives that each choice presents. Therefore, if any of these matters arise during their pregnancy or labour, they already know how they feel about certain interventions and whether instinctively these feel like the right decisions for them and their baby or not. Couples are also often reminded throughout the classes that there is always the option to question procedures and to say ‘no’ or to ask for extra time if possible.
A hypnobirthing course is about information, empowerment and choice. It is about having knowledge in order to have power and control over your situation. It should allay any fears or preconceptions that you or your birth partner may have. When you complete a course, you should walk away feeling more knowledgeable, confident and excited at the anticipation of the arrival of your precious baby. Being pregnant is a miracle. How the body, mind and spirit are intertwined in pregnancy and labour is mysterious, and giving birth will be magical, in whichever way is right for your situation.
Hypnobirthing is not a craze or a fad. It has been around for centuries. It has been done instinctively and intuitively, when communities were tighter, when people took the time to listen and care and when it didn’t have a label attached to it. In this modern, frantic world, it has become a necessity for expectant parents who want to be fully prepared for a positive and confident birth experience.
What parents-to-be have thought about attending a hypnobirthing course
‘I feel much more confident, informed and empowered. I am aware of my choices and also much more aware of my ability to birth our first baby. Prior to attending, I was not focused and felt that I had lots of bits of information, but I didn’t know how to make it meaningful for me. I highly recommend the course to all mums. It will ensure that birthing will be a more pleasant experience, avoiding unnecessary stress. Knowledge is power and the course has certainly empowered me.’
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Face-to-face hypnobirthing course
The Magical Baby Moments group course consists of four weekday evenings or two weekend days, on selected dates. Ideally this is taught to you anywhere from 20 weeks onwards. If you are late into your pregnancy and think you’ve missed the opportunity, don’t worry, you haven’t. Hypnobirthing principles for a relaxed and calm birth are easy to learn, so doing the course in the final weeks of pregnancy can be as effective as doing it mid-way through your pregnancy. Magical Baby Moments also offers private courses.
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Every birth experience is different. One size does not fit all and no two women are the same. Therefore understanding that pregnancy, labour and birth can be very different, it is really important to know what ‘could’ happen; what choices there are available to you and know that you can decline intervention, if you feel that it is not right for you and your baby.
But before we jump into what choices might be available to you for pregnancy labour and birth, let’s take a look at a very simple example, outside of pregnancy, where understanding our options, being aware of the differences and seeking certain functionality, enables us to select the product that feels right for us.
I am talking about buying a new mobile phone (or other device). Most people will usually look up various models and decide what model offers the functionality they desire. They may even look up online comparisons and even ask friends for recommendations. Only once they have gathered enough information to satisfy them, will they make a decision on which one to buy.
So why is it that so many couples go into labour and birth not fully understanding the processes, their choices and their rights? I believe that in many cases expectant mums put their trust in their care providers to take them through this part of their journey; believing that they have their best interests at heart. Ultimately they do. But understanding that our caregivers are constrained by hospital protocols, bureaucracy, red tape and senior management, does not make their roles easy. They are evaluated by tick boxes and paperwork, and their time spent ‘being with the mother’ is constrained.
Going in blind to what your options are could leave you open to helplessly being carried along by the system and potentially missing out on the birth that you had hoped for.
Quite often I hear, ‘Oh, I had to be induced’ or ‘I didn’t know I had a choice’ or ‘I just did what they told me’. When I dig a little deeper, I find out that they weren’t aware (at the time) that there were alternatives. They weren’t presented with the real picture of what their options were.
Induction for ‘post-dates’ in a mother that is classified ‘low-risk’
In the UK, it is very common for women to be booked in for an induction between 41 and 42 weeks gestation. It can often be offered to the mum by the caregiver in the following way: ‘If baby hasn’t made an appearance by next Thursday we will book you in for an induction.’
For many, they will accept that this procedure is best for mum and baby, however quite often they are not told about the pros and cons of accepting an induction, or about the pros and cons of declining an induction, with evidence-based information. Parents need to be given both sides of the story for each alternative to fully be able to make an informed decision.
Parents may also be told things such as ‘baby will get too big’, ‘your placenta might fail’ or, worse still, ‘your body doesn’t know how to get labour started’, which often scare a mother and her birth partner into accepting an induction earlier than necessary.
In the UK the due date is set at 40 weeks, guided by the date of the last menstrual cycle and by the dating scan at 12 weeks. The World Health Organization states that babies are usually born anytime between 37 and 42 weeks. This is a 5-week window, not a single date in a given month. And for a baby to be born around the 42 week mark is perfectly normal.
So take a moment to think that when a woman is offered an induction before the 42-week mark has arrived, she is intervening and interrupting the body during a common period for a baby to be born. Why would you want to do that if you and baby are both well and there are no medical concerns? If you feel strongly about not wanting an induction, you can decline and ask to be monitored more closely during this waiting time.
‘Informed choice’ is one of the many topics discussed in a hypnobirthing course. Ensuring that you understand, during pregnancy, the most common options for labour and birth will give you the confidence and calmness to deal with any situation that arises. By being informed, knowing what the choices are and understanding the associated risks and benefits, you will be able to look back on it as a positive birth experience that you were in control of. Remember, giving birth is your right. How you want it to be is entirely up to you. The caregivers are there to support you for a happy, healthy and safe delivery, not to enforce you to do anything you are not comfortable with.
During a hypnobirthing course, your teacher will explain to you the common scenarios that might occur. This will help you and your birth partner decide on your preferences. Then, if/when a situation arises during the course of labour, you will:
It therefore becomes a positive birth experience to look back on, regardless of any twists and turns in the process; because no matter what the outcome of your birth experience is, you know that:
If you would like to approach labour and birth with calmness, confidence and have the preparation to be able to take control of your birth journey, find a local KG Hypnobirthing teacher. For expectant couples living near Romford, Essex, contact Magical Baby Moments on 07764 680 215 or email email@example.com.
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By preparing yourself with hypnobirthing you increase your chances of the birth that you want, often without the need for medical intervention. If you need to have a planned C-section, hypnobirthing can help you prepare for that birth too, in a calmer, more informed way.
If I do the NHS antenatal classes or sign up to NCT, will I still benefit from a hypnobirthing course?
Yes of course, 100%. The NHS antenatal classes are useful to find out the medicalised approach to labour and how things may be handled if you need intervention. The NCT classes are also beneficial for networking with other couples in your area who are having a baby around the same time as you, as well as give you an overview of pregnancy and labour topics. However a hypnobirthing course is a comprehensive antenatal course, as it encompasses all of these elements. It also makes you aware of the alternative choices that you might like to consider. By being fully informed you are able to make the right decisions about labour and birth for you and your baby. A hypnobirthing course gives you the confidence to ask the right questions, whilst at the same time preparing you for birth with a more relaxed attitude.
Magical Baby Moments offers hypnobirthing classes to expectant mothers and their birthing partners in Romford, Upminster and Thurrock in Essex. If you live close to any of these locations, then book your hypnobirthing course today.
Christine, the founder of Magical Baby Moments, published The Power of Hypnobirthing, 10 reasons why it's for you, which is available on Amazon. Here are the headings of each of the chapters, to give you a little insight:
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Magical Baby Moments follows the teaching programme that KG Hypnobirthing has developed. Christine used hypnobirthing for both of her children Since becoming a hypnobirthing teacher in 2015, she has gone on to teach many couples hypnobirthing from not only Romford and Upminster, but also the surrounding locations of Gidea Park, Hornchurch, Dagenham, Ilford, Chingford, Grays and more. She has also recently qualified to become a trainer for hypnobirthing teacher with KG Hypnobirthing.
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There are different types of antenatal preparation to get ready for the birth of your baby. One of them is hypnobirthing. I am a KG Hypnobirthing instructor based in Romford, Essex. In 2017, I wrote The Power of Hypnobirthing: 10 reasons why it’s for you. I am a firm advocate that hypnobirthing can benefit every mother, in every pregnancy. Let me tell you why...
Hypnobirthing may conjure up certain images in your head. But don't be put off by the word. Hypnosis doesn't put you in some altered state of reality. It doesn't make you do things you wouldn't normally do — it only puts you in an altered state of consciousness. All hypnosis is self-hypnosis — only you can put yourself into a ‘hypnotic state’.
Hypnobirthing is about learning to take control of your mind and your body for labour and birth. You can achieve this through breathing, visualisation and relaxation techniques. Women who use hypnobirthing, trust in their body and baby to guide them through this wonderful journey. They relax into labour and allow their body to do its thing. But hypnobirthing isn’t just about these relaxation techniques for birth. It is a comprehensive antenatal course that provides you with a toolkit and wealth of information. It will empower you to make the right choices for you and your baby. Hypnobirthing courses are usually done after 20 weeks gestation. Here is how it enhances labour and increases the chances of a positive birth experience.
All women (and their birth partners) need to be informed of the choices that are available. They need to know the risks and benefits associated with those choices. Are there alternatives? What are the risks and benefits of those. Only when they have a comprehensive picture can they make an informed choice.
Connect the mind and body
The links between the mind and the body are strong, and you can influence them one way or another. Hypnobirthing scripts, visualisations and positive birth affirmations are all techniques used by mothers. They enable them to remain calm, reassured and focused during pregnancy and labour.
Trust in nature
All animals instinctively know how to birth their babies. In the modern and frantic world that we live in, us humans often look for medical assistance when we give birth. In some cases this is not even necessary. Many think this will be an 'easier' path, but it is often not the case. Induced labours can be long, hard and, at times, difficult. Birth is not usually a medical emergency, we should stop treating them as such.
Bond with your baby in pregnancy
Hypnobirthing courses teach mums and birth partners connect and bond with their baby during pregnancy. These little beings are already unique tiny people. They are ready to connect with you before they are born.
Involve your birth partner during pregnancy
Quite often birth partners are observers during the pregnancy stage. Attending hypnobirthing course will teach them the tools and techniques for a calm and gentle birth. They will be an invaluable support during labour.
Let your birth partner support you during labour and birth
Birth partners who get involved in pregnancy, make fantastic supportive birth partners. Why? Because together you plan for the birth and discuss the path that you would like to experience. If questions arise during labour, they are able to support your wishes and be an advocate for you.
Release any underlying fears you may have
People often tell expectant mothers the ‘negative aspects’ about the experiences they have had. For first-time mums this can be detrimental, as these can play on a mothers mind. Hypnobirthing allows couples to talk through their worries and fears. The course will help them prepare for birth with a positive outlook.
Learn natural ways to keep your body relaxed and comfortable in labour
Being relaxed calm and comfortable during labour allows the body to work more efficiently. Couples will explore many ways to achieve this; whether they are in hospital, a midwife-led unit or at home.
Discover the best positions for labour and birth
TV and films would have us believe that being on our backs whist one a bed is how to give birth. This is the WORST position to allow your baby to descend with ease. Learn what to do instead in a hypnobirthing course.
Learn how to use hypnobirthing for a Caesarean Section and/or a Vaginal Birth after a Caesarean Section (VBAC)
Hypnobirthing applies to all women, regardless of how their birth experience plays out. If the birth journey takes an unexpected turn and needs to include medical intervention, everything that she has learned will still be extremely useful.
It is every expectant woman’s right to have a positive experience. In our current world, birth can often be seen as a medical emergency. Medical professionals get involved and individualised care isn’t carried out.
Give yourself the tools and the power to take control of your birth experience. Arm yourself with the right information to aide you in making the right decisions for you and your baby. Give hypnobirthing a try.
My personal experience with hypnobirthing
I discovered hypnobirthing in a parenting magazine. I was in the third trimester of my second pregnancy. (I had a missed-miscarriage with my first pregnancy). The way the article described hypnobirthing resonated with what I wanted to experience. It described a calm and confident birth, trusting in nature to do its thing. The article directed me to a book, which I read and re-read in the final weeks of pregnancy.
After doing our research we opted for a homebirth. The labouring stage with my son was tranquil and serene. Being at home was a comfortable setting. The hypnobirthing techniques that I had taught myself were keeping me in a peaceful zone. Tragically, our son was born sleeping. Our world came tumbling down in and instant. The happiness of that homebirth experience was soon obliterated.
With my third pregnancy, we were all anxious as to whether this pregnancy was going to have a happy ending. As the weeks passed and the pregnancy progressed well, I pulled out that book again. It was then that I realised just how powerful hypnobirthing had been during that labour with my son. I was eager to research other methods and use it to help me achieve the right birth for my daughter.
As a precaution, my caregivers were recommending to me to have her via a Caesarean Section. In my heart I wanted to experience another vaginal birth. Hypnobirthing had taught me about mindfulness and the power of positive thought. I bought myself more material to empower me and I had a great midwife who believed in me too. It worked. I went into labour spontaneously two days before the Caesarean Section date. It was an active and relaxed birth in a hospital setting. It was everything I wanted, and more. This isn’t to say that there weren’t emotional wobbles during the labour. I remember at one point wondering why I hadn't just opted for the C-section. Hypnobirthing, and being mindful of wanting another natural birth, gave me a swift kick up the bum. Just flipping well get on with it!! You can do it. And I did!
It wasn't until 2015 that I became a hypnobirthing teacher. I chose to follow the Katharine Graves, KGHypnobirthing method. The teacher training course is accredited by the Royal College of Midwives. Since then I have gone on to teach many couples about the power of hypnobirthing. I know it can help all expectant mums, regardless of their situation and potential past experiences.
I am grateful to my son for taking me on this path of helping inform others. I am not sure without his experience that I would have...
If you are pregnant, it would be my pleasure to support you through your pregnancy. Give me a call and let's have a chat.
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This is a very important question to ask? Is it your medical caregiver or you, the parents?
The answer is YOU.
It is up to you to choose where to give birth. Will it be a hospital, a birth centre or at home (read more about this in my blog: How to decide where to give birth: what are the options). You need to decide what type of childbirth care you want/need to have. This is either midwifery care, or obstetric care. Midwives will take care of women opting for a vaginal birth. This can start either spontaneously or it may be induced. A woman using obstetric care will usually have a more medicalised labour.
But here are some things to ponder when it comes to your baby's birth.
If you are not confident about what labour and birth may bring, speak to your midwife. You may also want to consider investing in an antenatal course such as hypnobirthing. It will arm you will all the information that you need about what to expect. It will give you lots of tools and tips to keep you calm, confident and comfortable during labour too.
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Here are some things you should think about to help formulate your ideal birth:
1. Where do you want your baby to be born – hospital, birth centre, at home?
2. How do you feel about being induced/having your waters broken?
3. Do you have a preference to only being seen to by women?
4. Would you mind any students being present during your labour and birth?
5. Do you want to be active during labour, such as being able to walk around? (ask your midwife to use the wireless monitoring if you need it, formally known as telemetry)
6. What labour techniques do you want to use? Hypnobirthing, water birth, listening to music etc?
7. Do you know what pain relief you would/wouldn’t like?
8. How do you want your birth partner to support you?
9. How do you feel about medical intervention? Detail your list in order of preference.
10. How long do you want it to be until they cut the umbilical cord? Read about Optimal Cord Clamping.
11. Do you want your partner to cut the umbilical cord?
12. How do you want to find out the sex of the baby - be told/see for yourself?
13. Do you want your baby delivered onto your stomach?
14. Do you want to do skin-to-skin contact straight away?
15. Do you want to try to breastfeed straight away?
16. Who do you want to get the baby dressed?
These are just some pointers that will help you decide what is right for you.
If you want some extra help, go the NHS website to download a birth plan template.
Be sure to write it down and attach it to your maternity notes. Make sure that your birthing partner knows where it is so that they can relay your preferences to your midwives.
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Birth is a woman’s right and how she chooses to go through her pregnancy and how to give birth should always be in her control. If you're on your first pregnancy, no doubt you have been reading countless books, been getting advice from medical professionals and recommended by family and friends what you should do.
During pregnancy, there are tests and scans that are usually carried out. Having them is not obligatory. You can say ‘no’; tough many don’t realise that there is a choice. Rarely are parents told of the risks and benefits of each test before having them carried out.
The medical professional is there to advise and inform you of your choices; however the ultimate decision should always lie with you. Here are some considerations that you might want to think about:
Where to have your antenatal check-ups
Your antenatal care can be provided in a number of ways. You could book your appointments at the local Children’s Clinic, you could be assigned a visiting community midwife at your local doctor’s surgery, or you may have your antenatal care directly with the hospital at which you will give birth. Ask about each option to find out which option would best suit you.
Dating Scan – the rigidity of it
Often women will calculate their due date based on their last menstrual cycle. Then at the first scan, which is around 12 weeks into her pregnancy this date is likely to alter. Note that scans aren’t always accurate and the due date can often out between 3-5 days. If they measure the baby bigger, then this would give a mum an earlier expected date, which at the end of pregnancy means an earlier date for potential pressure for an intervention/induced birth.
It’s worth noting here that the World Health Organisation states that a baby is at full term from 37 weeks and if born at this point usually doesn’t need medical assistance. Yet it is also perfectly normal for a woman to give birth around the 42 week mark. So the rigidity of a single day is nonsense when you think about it. Only 4 per cent of babies are born on their due date, and the majority of babies are born after their due date.
Also be aware that having scans is not compulsory, in fact some might argue that as they don’t alter the course of pregnancy, is there really a need for them at all? For many women, they provide reassurance that the pregnancy is progressing well, however for others, the results of a scan can bring unexpected news. How does this alter how the woman feels in pregnancy? If you would like to read more about Ultrasounds, I recommend the book written by the Association for Improved Maternity Services (AIMS) called Ultrasound? Unsound
Gestational Diabetes test
Gestational Diabetes is a high blood sugar condition that women can get during pregnancy. Between 2 and 5 per cent of pregnant mothers develop this condition.
Only about 30 per cent of women who test positive on the glucose screen really have the condition. If you test positive on the screening, you'll need to take the glucose tolerance test (GTT) – a longer, more definitive test that confirms whether you have gestational diabetes, or not.
How will I know if I might have gestational diabetes?
A routine urine test will show a lot of sugar in your urine. If midwife notices this, she may want you to be tested for this. Even if the results are normal, you may be screened again at 24 to 28 weeks, just to be sure.
If you are diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes, your pregnancy will move into the ‘high risk’ category, which in turn could mean birth choices being taken away from you; such as no longer being able to give birth in a birth centre or midwife-led unit. The reason for this is that with gestational diabetes babies can grow bigger than the expected range for birth and the health system would prefer to monitor you in the labour ward, where facilities are on hand should they be required.
This is why it is important to maintain a healthy diet throughout pregnancy, so that your blood sugars remain in the normal range. Avoid sugary foods and drinks before midwife appointments to avoid unusual readings that could lead you along this path.
Where to have your baby - hospital, midwife-led unit or home birth?
In the UK, the NHS, in fairness, is trying hard to normalise birth (read about the Better Births Initiative). While many births still take place at hospital, the NHS is working towards making it less of a medical procedure and more of the wonderful experience that it should be treated as. The NHS is investing in more birthing centres, many of which are within a hospital setting. The centre usually has a more hotel-like feel rather than the medicalised setting that a labour suite tends to have. The centres are managed only by midwives, which is why they only accept women with low-risk pregnancies.
Women who are considered high-risk would be in a labour ward, where obstetricians are available to help, should any emergencies arise.
In recent years there has been a push for home-births. In the Better Births Initiative link (above) it states: ‘Birthplace research shows that healthy women with planned births in midwife-led units and at home were more likely to have a normal birth as compared with obstetric units.’
Home Births are intended for women who have had low risk pregnancies and where midwifery care comes to your home to help you in give birth to your baby.
So is where you birth really a choice? What if you did have factors that put you in the high-risk bracket…are some of those choices no longer available to you? Each woman’s circumstance is different, so speak to your midwife about your plans for birth to see how they can accommodate your preferences.
Should I take their advice for an induced labour or can I wait for labour to start spontaneously?
As your due date approaches, your midwife is likely to say to you something along these lines. ‘If baby hasn’t arrived before so-and-so date then we will book you for an induction’. Please stop her right there and simply ask the question, ‘Why? What medical concerns do you have for me or my baby?’
According to the National Institute of Clinical Negligence (NICE), an induction should only be suggested to mothers when there is a clinical justification – read the NICE guidelines. If all is well and your baby is happy where they are and you both just happen to be past the due date, this is NOT a reason for induction. However, many women just aren’t aware of this.
Because it has become so routine in our modern society, women seem to accept this as the way it has to be, without questioning why. For those who haven’t read up on their choices, they may easily accept this information and just say to friends and family. ‘I’m going to be induced on so-and-so date.’ But what they are not told is what the medical reason is for this. The late arrival of a healthy baby, with a mother who is not presenting any medical concerns, is not a clinical justification.
Quite often women aren’t talked through what an induction really means, how this type of labour feels, compared to a spontaneous labour, and what risks are involved during an induced labour. In many cases an induction leads to a C-section. I often wonder if these outcomes could have been avoided, if they had been given more time for a natural labour to start.
Just think back to when you first fell pregnant? Did you calculate your own ‘due date’? Perhaps this date was a day, or more, later than your hospital due date… are they therefore rushing you to have your baby unnecessarily early? You, your body and your baby have done just fine for 39+weeks so why do they think that your body wouldn’t know how to go into spontaneous labour when it is ripe and ready?
So what can you do? You are fully within your rights (because how you birth is YOUR choice) to decline induction and be asked to be monitored more closely in the days after 40 weeks has passed, to ensure that both you and baby continue to be well. For extra reading, look at the AIMS booklet on Inducing Labour: Making Informed Decisions
The choice of how your labour plays out is in your hands - it doesn't need to be totally managed by the midwife, neither do you need to be left totally alone. It can be a blend of many things. Here are some things to consider:
In the hospital you may be asked to sign consent forms when you are in established labour, say for example agreeing to an epidural. It may be worth discussing these options with your midwife in early labour and tell her what you are open to or not. Get those consent forms signed before you enter the bubble of established labour, when the last thing you are going to care about is admin! You will have a bigger job at hand.
A vaginal examination helps the midwife establish how far your cervix has dilated. Other than that, it serves no purpose. It is possible for the cervix to constrict in labour if a woman is feeling tense or vulnerable. So if you are not comfortable with having an examination, the cervix may react and present tighter than when you relax your body; therefore giving a misleading dilation stretch. Though not very likely, there is a slim chance that by having a vaginal examination infection and bacteria is introduced into the vagina. An expectant mother is well within her right to decline all vaginal examinations, if that is her preference.
Breaking your waters vs spontaneous rupture of the amniotic sac
In an induced labour, after the pessary has taken effect, if labour isn’t progressing as they would like, the next step would be perform an Artificial Rupture of the Membranes (ARM), also known as an amniotomy. This is usually carried out by your midwife. The membranes will be ruptured using a tool, such as an amnihook or amnicot. This is carried out in the belief that it will speed up and strengthen contractions.
In a spontaneous labour the membranes can rupture at any point in labour. In rare cases a baby is born with amniotic sac still intact, this is called ‘en caul’.
While the risks are very low, there are risks associated with ARMs. It is a blind procedure, therefore, there can be no certainty that the midwife won’t end up rupturing vessels that are part of the overall blood supply to the baby. An already compromised baby may be put at further risk by an amniotomy; as the uterus could become hyper-stimulated.
In addition to this, if when the waters break the baby doesn’t align correctly within the pelvic inlet, they maybe might find it hard to get into position. When this happens, the cervix dilation can stall and labour doesn’t progress as it should do. Most hospital’s policies are that they would like babies to be born within 24 hours of the ARM. If a woman’s labour shows signs of stalling, other forms of induction and augmentation will be offered, before the 24 hour deadline approaches.
Your baby should be monitored at least every four hours in early labour and every 15 minutes in established labour. A midwife will listen in to the baby’s heart rate, either with a hand-held Doppler or with a continual fetal heart monitor and check that baby’s heart rate does not decelerate during contractions. When a baby’s heart rate dips during contractions, it is a sign that the baby is in distress. They will continue to monitor you and the baby very closely and advise if alternative action necessary.
Confined to the bed vs being mobile
When a woman spends most of her labour on a bed, her movements are restricted, her body could be in the exact same position for long periods of time. If this happens to be more lying down than sitting upright, she is not using gravity to her advantage and she could be slowing the labour process down without realising it.
A woman, who wants to encourage a smoother labour, keeps mobile. Those movements encourage the baby to descend more rapidly and result in shorter labours, often without complications. Antenatal educators advise all mothers to be active and upright in labour and to only use the bed when it is absolutely necessary.
Natural vs medicalised pain relief
There are two types of pain relief; see the options below:
Women are encouraged to go through as much of labour with natural pain relief, so as not to interrupt the natural process of birth. However, for some women, using medical pain relief is a necessity and we are lucky to have these options available to us, should they be needed.
Some people consider hypnobirthing as a natural form of pain relief. Hypnobirthing itself doesn’t promise a pain free labour, but many women who have learned hypnobirthing, who have practiced the techniques and have worked on preparing for birth with a positive mindset go on to experience wonderful births.
Giving birth; should I lie, sit or squat?
Unlike the films and soap operas, giving birth on a bed with your legs astride is not the only position to give birth. The sitting position on a bed can inhibit your baby’s entrance into the world and it can be more challenging for the mother to give birth in this position. Lying down flat, means that you are not letting gravity help you and somehow your baby has to venture into your birth canal horizontally – this isn’t very efficient.
Consider being more upright, think about adopting a squat-like pose, where you are able to bear down, allowing the birth of the baby to be smoother. This could be sitting on a birth ball with your hips higher than your knees (encouraging the upper part of your body to tip slightly forward). This position puts the baby’s weight on the frontal part of the pelvis; potentially allowing more space. This is because your ligaments are looser during late pregnancy and your pelvic capacity can widen.
You could also think about being on your knees and leaning across the back part of the bed (moved into a vertical position - like the back of a chair). By leaning over the bed, you are allowing your bump to tip forward, whilst still having movement and flexibility in your hips. This position also works well if you are in the birthing pool.
Coached birthing vs mother-led birthing
You may have visions of the midwife encouraging you to ‘push’ your baby out when the time comes. Media will have you believe that labour is all about pushing, pain and panting – this is inaccurate. A mother doesn’t need to experience that to birth her baby; there are gentler ways to aid your baby into this world. Simply by listening to your body and responding accordingly; through gentle Down Breathing, as taught in KG Hypnobirthing, allows your baby to descend to the rhythm of your body.
Natural expulsion of the placenta or Synthetic Oxytocin injection
It is entirely up to you whether you prefer the midwives to administer Synthetic Oxytocin into your system to help aid the detachment of the placenta from the uterus wall. If you have had an unmedicalised labour up until that point, you may well choose not to accept the injection to start with. It is extremely likely that your body will do this of its own accord. If you have had an augmented labour, then your body may then need a little help in expulsing the placenta, with the help of this hormone substitute. Ask your caregiver if they feel it is necessary when the time comes, or perhaps wait to see how your body reacts after birth to decide for sure.
Cutting the cord / Optimal cord clamping
In the UK today, optimal cord clamping is encouraged for all babies in all birth situations, whenever possible. Ask your midwife what the policy is in your Trust. My hope is that they will say ‘until the cord stops pulsating’. If they don’t say this, then maybe this is something that you need to have in your birth plan. Nature intends for the baby to have all the blood from the placenta after birth. When the blood has drained, the umbilical cord starts recoiling and the placenta begins to detach from the uterus wall. At most this takes a few minutes. During this time the baby is enriched with all the stem cells and blood that belongs to him/her, that they would otherwise be deprived of, if the cord were to be cut sooner. Did you know that a baby can weigh 200g more if the blood is passed from the placenta, than if the cord were to be cut immediately? This blood belongs to your baby, so ask your caregivers to ‘wait for white’ (the colour the umbilical cord will be when the blood has passed through). Find out more: Wait For White
Skin to Skin
It is encouraged that the baby goes directly to the mother straight after birth. Decide if you prefer to have the baby wiped down first or whether you are happy for baby to come directly to you. This is known as Skin to Skin. This period is extremely important for many reasons:
After being nine months in a warm, dark pool of water, where the sounds are all muffled. It is quite a stark contrast to come into this world. Where people are excitedly talking about the new arrival, where the lights are bright and this beautiful wet baby is starting to feel cool air on its skin. The best way to soothe the baby is to place it directly to the mother’s chest, where her body heat can warm the baby, where the sound of her heartbeat and other bodily noises can be heard again; offering comfort and where a significant part of the microbiome process can be introduced (this is one of the early milestones in which you can colonise the gut with important bacteria from the mum and helps to build the baby’s immune system).
If for whatever reason mum is unable to do this, then the Birth Partner could do this. Isn’t it much nicer than having the baby in a cot nearby, or being held by strangers, when there is no need?
Breastfeeding is a personal decision, and from experience I know that it isn’t as easy as it seems. What your plans may have been before you baby was born, can be very different from what you actually experience. However, breastfeeding is considered beneficial for the following reasons:
Partners being able to stay
This varies from hospital to hospital. It seems crazy that when a woman who is in a vulnerable situation and needs support, is not allowed to have her partner stay with her. There must also be an emotional impact for the partners to be sent away, when it comes to bonding with their baby. Discuss this with your midwife, as to what the guidelines are for your hospital. Sometimes you can pay for a private room; this option may be attractive to you.
These are just some considerations to decide upon, that can help you create the right birth plan that is for you.
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