How to get the right support from your birth partner

It’s vital to have someone there who you are confident that they will support you. It's important that they know your hopes, feelings and preferences for the birth. They need to be confident about your preferences, so that they are able to speak up for you, if needed. 

The baby's father will usually be the lucky one who gets to share this extraordinary moment. However, you may also opt for your mother or another member of the family or even your closest friend. The important thing is that you choose someone you completely trust and with whom you are at ease with. They must also be a rock for you, should the going get tough. Most hospitals in the UK allow two people with you. If you feel that this is right for you, explain to your partner the benefits of having someone to support them too. This can be especially helpful if the labour is long.
 
The birthing partner's job is a very important one. He or she will have to offer you complete support and encouragement. They need to keep you as comfortable as possible during the labour and birth. You need someone who is prepared to respond to your every need. Someone who is happy to pace the room with you and try out all the different positions you have learned. Someone who won't be offended if you get irritable. They will remain strong during difficult moments and be your rock if you fall to pieces! Finally, it has to be someone who can be your voice. They need to be able to represent your thoughts and feelings. They must stand up for what you want if, during your labour, you are unable to do so yourself.
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Your birthing partner will experience the whole amazing process. They can be the first to see your baby's head emerging into the world, and get the chance to cut the umbilical cord (if that's what they want to do). It will also be their job to remain with your newborn if you need medical attention or feel groggy after the birth. Your birthing partner may have to endure quite a lot during the labour and birth. But one cuddle the beautiful newborn for the very first time and it will be forgotten.

Useful things a birth partner may need to take to hospital:

• Camera (though these days our phones are pretty good)
• Charger
• Toiletries
• Shaving kit
• Clothing
• Book/tablet
• Snacks
• Drinks
• Change (for vending machines/car park

​A great way to ensure that your birth partner is confident in supporting you would be for them to attend antenatal classes with you. find out what you will get from a hypnobirthing course.

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